Those who engage in premarital sex will have to deal with the attitudes of their families, their friends, and their community. It's the number one sexual problem women deal with, says Jen Martin, a Seattle, Wash. She has good weeks and bad weeks. If you simply want to enjoy sexual intimacy with someone you feel close to, that is quite doable. I also wonder about Muslims. Others, like the influential conservative Christian organization, Focus on the Family, say self-pleasure falls short of God's design for sexuality as spelled out in the Bible — that it's meant specifically to be lived out in a marital relationship — and can become addictive, hampering marital sexual and emotional intimacy. If on the other hand you think quiet sex is the hottest thing ever, have at it. What about premarital sex today? I just felt so dirty, and so broken, like I had completely failed God and I completely failed my parents Meghan At church, she and her peers studied the book, " I Kissed Dating Goodbye ," whose central message was that even dating someone was dangerous if you didn't plan to marry them. November 14, at Frequently Asked Questions What does the Bible say about sex before marriage? For that reason alone, let us overcome any spiritual obstacles holding us back from experiencing our own little slice of Heaven here on earth! A husband forcing sex or not taking account of his wife's needs or welfare is wrong. A wife cannot flatly refuse her husband, she may only ask for a delay a raincheck and then she needs to make good on that raincheck as soon as possible. Jesus showed us the ultimate in sacrifice for others. But I want you to understand something, it is not your responsibility to keep your wife in the marriage by any means necessary, and certainly not by giving in to her willful, rebellious and sinful behavior.