Your partner may have hidden fears or questions he or she is afraid to bring up. A big way you can do this is face to face communication. Does method of birth make a difference to when women resume sex after childbirth? The stimulation of touch alone can be highly pleasurable. Also, caring for a newborn day and night may leave you too fatigued to want sex. For otherwise healthy women, it's OK to begin using combined birth control pills and other types of combined hormonal birth control six weeks after childbirth. Childbirth can also shift our internal parts into just the right place, to make them more sensitive to stimulation. Sex after the birth Health visitor Maggie Fisher talks about how soon couples can re-start their sex life after the birth of their baby. Surprisingly, according to Marin, some self-pleasure is actually key to getting your intimate life back: Try just cuddling and being intimate at first, so you gradually become used to being touched in a sexual way again. Maybe tell her what you love about that part of her as you go along. When a mother is anxious or stressed about her appearance which is extremely common in post-natal mothers , the last thing she tends to be able to do is feel like a sex kitten and ravish you or be ravished in the bedroom. Fortunately, there are ways to alleviate some of that discomfort. You will probably be pleasantly surprised to hear what they say. Depending on how old your baby is, you could take bub out for a walk for an hour, or out to visit your parents at home if they are closeby, or just occupy baby in between feeds, out of the earshot of mum. It saves your partner from having to take daily medication which involves health risks and has side effects, and a similar operation for her is more complicated. That beautiful round belly that everyone thought was adorable has transformed into what she may see as saggy, squishy, jelly belly.