I would ask you — is this fair? He had to live in shitty motels because he was no longer allowed to live with his family, due to the fact that there were young children in the family home his daughter and his nieces. Between and , for example, the mean sentence for a child pornography conviction rose from 36 months to months. I know this because Alex told me the next day after the party that he had relapsed, but that he had met a woman he really liked, and she seemed to like him back too. Some, like Maryland, are considering removing the names of people who committed less serious offenses. If you are a woman, would you consider dating Alex after you listened to his story and heard what actually happened to him? Unfortunately, many members of the clinical and legal communities are not fully versed in the clinical intricacies of sexual offending. In , states were required to create databases of sex offenders. I cannot undo the past. I have moved on from it now, but at the time it ruined my life and was probably the single-most devastating thing that had ever happened to me. It seems to me that sex offenders have more rights than my children. I will have an open mind because everyone has a story behind how they ended up where they are in this life. And there is little opposition to this, because what media personality or politician would advocate for offenders when there is so much to be gained with the opposite stance. I met him in a group therapy when we were both trying to put our lives back together after getting DUIs. Thirty-three states have opted out of at least some aspects of the law that brings registries online.