They surveyed participants who were using online dating, and had at least one person they were thinking of meeting in person. Do you think there is a double standard in place concerning the way in which people view a man having sex on the first date as opposed to a woman? The first date is not enough time to talk about any past sexual history that may have resulted in diseases, diseases that I might be able to catch. Treating sex like a prize or an arbitrary milestone teaches us to suppress our sexual desires for the sake of gender and social norms. First of all, they found that most participants were disappointed after the first date, as indicated by having less attraction after meeting than during online engagement. The most important key is to be open and honest with one another about your respective views on sex and relationships. Importantly, all other factors being equal, greater communication overall, and greater disclosure, predicted first date success. What's the expert verdict? In addition, they collected the emails study participants sent prior to meeting and carefully coded the content into thematic units. My fiance and I meet through work and flirted for two months before going out for the first time. So while online dating is on the rise, most online relationships do not lead to long-term committed relationships. Chances are, if I wasn't feeling a mental connection, we weren't going on a second date or having sex anyway, and I probably already faked an emergency to get out of dodge. Real-life online dating experience tells us that it isn't surprising that the first date is typically disappointing. If there was previously a stigma attached to having sex on the first date, do you think it has been lifted or still exists to some extent? Also, remember to approach sex in an empowering manner so that no matter what someone else thinks about you afterward, you still feel good about your decision to fulfil your sexual desires because it is your right to do so in a safe and consensual way without shame or guilt. So, what are the take-home messages? I had an experience where I had been dating a guy for a few months before the first time, then we did it and it was bad.