Romantic intensity expresses the momentary value of acute emotions. Maybe suspense yields to the suspension of disbelief. Addressing such arguments requires clarifying what we mean by profound love. A flash of intense sexual desire might last for a very short time, but profound love resonates constantly, coloring our moods, our demeanor, and the way we relate to time and space. I believe that all of the above objections can be met once we distinguish between intense and profound love. Marrying a person on the basis of merely intense passionate love, while ignoring, say, the person's low intelligence or lack of kindness, may be considered in the short run as a very romantic decision. The issue of whether to leave a marriage in which love is not passionate becomes alarmingly central for many couples, and romantic compromises become a major concern. It is true that intense passionate love, limited in scope, does not provide a strong enough foundation for living together for many years; however, profound love, based upon a profound compatibility between two lovers, enables them to share many activities together and to promote their flourishing. However, long-term happiness and meaningfulness cannot be based upon intense passion alone, but should involve profound love, which includes shared activities and profound care and reciprocity, as well as at least a moderate level of intensity. Intense passionate love is indeed a short-term emotion depending to a great extent on changeable circumstances—but the sentiment of profound love is a phenomenon that can last for many years. Has marriage for love failed? Romantic profundity involves shared activities which fulfill essential needs that foster of a couple's long-term flourishing. The biggest mood killer? Our dumb culture tricks us into believing that romance is the suspense of not knowing whether someone loves you or not yet, the suspense of wanting to have sex but not being able to yet, the suspense of wanting all problems and puzzles to be solved by one person, without knowing if they have any time or affinity for your particular puzzles yet. The combination of these objections leads to the claim that considering love as the essence of marriage is bound to lead to disappointments and romantic compromises. Which may mean a different kind of physical experience than a quickie motivated by early-days passion. Although the socioeconomic considerations for marriage may be losing ground as more people are able to maintain and even improve their socioeconomic situation without it, external circumstances still influence the decision to form any committed relationship, including marriage.