The highest goods are inaccessible to those who have not the virtues to taste them, the way the finer arts or foods are impenetrable to those of us who do not speak the languages required. And now when people look at me they think that I'm something I'm not just because of one incident one night with someone who I was in love with. You can unsubscribe at any time and we'll never share your details without your permission. Tragedy is not inevitable, but its all-too-real possibility heightens our awareness of the unknown, potentially unstable path ahead of us. The face-to-face union of the couple appears in public through the vow of marriage, its native home and safeguard. As sex has something to do with marriage, then, our hypothetical couple would need to consider what kind of practices they would undertake in order to keep eros alive and strong within the sexual union. To approve of a behavior is to treat it as morally permissible, not just for the people engaging in it but for anyone similarly situated—including ourselves. The child who arrives through procreation is not, strictly speaking, chosen. For a child in foster care, the stability and opportunities that come through being adopted into a new home are considerable. In short, willingness matters for moral evaluation as much as the act itself. That erotic attraction reminds us of our finitude and mortality, of our impermanence and instability, should not surprise us: In our response to the great crisis of marriage, social conservatives have frequently objected to how emotional construals of love and romance have overwhelmed the institutional, covenantal, or procreative aspects of marriage. Their willingness to have children has a clear and intelligible logic to it, one that even comes through in the emotions that might take root in their union: To help him in his noble quest, Neil enlisted the help of experienced adult performer Janine Lindemulder, who thoughtfully brought along her friend Brandy Ledford, just in case she got lonely. Joy, stretching us into the future, discovers our mortality and fosters the perhaps irrational hope that we might become stronger than it.