And that's not true, either. When women have tearing around the entrance of the vagina, or just inside, healthcare providers sometimes prescribe specific antibiotic ointments in order to reduce the risk of developing an infection. Here are some more links relevant to this topic for you: If at any time a woman feels discomfort, pain or has concerns about bleeding, she might consider checking in with her healthcare provider which is recommended prior to becoming sexually active, anyway. For the most part, just like bleeding from any other part of your body, bleeding that comes with or follows intercourse or any other kind of sex is due to an injury. A recent study found that just over half of women who had bleeding after sex reported that it cleared up on its own within 2 years. There aren't any "shoulds" here. Some women experience physical discomfort with early attempts at intercourse; others do not. Consider that in our modern day, for as much as you hear adults talking about how young people having sex in their teens and twenties are, many women in history, and in some places still, had first intercourse and marriage at even younger ages than now. When it all comes down to it, they've never really been about women at all, but about the way men and the world at large decided women are or are not valuable based not only in sexism, but in ignorance about our bodies. A second common reason for bleeding after sex are cervical polyps. Why might tearing occur? One study which was done, cited by my friend Hanne Blank in her book, Virgin: The last time I had intercourse before this was about a month. Because of that, and because historically, first sex for women was not with someone they were in love with or attracted to, we can also know that for some women who had bleeding at first intercourse through history, that was because they were not aroused, were scared, and often sex was everything from only out of obligation to barely consensual to completely nonconsensual and by force. A Fairly Common Occurrence Whatever the cause, this is actually a fairly common occurrence and nothing to be embarrassed about though we understand that it can feel embarrassing at the time.